Okay, so it’s been a LONG, LONG, LONG time since I’ve posted to this blog. Definitely due to more reasons than one.
I’ve been divorced now for almost 3 years and throughout this time, I really never had a desire to get in the dating scene if that’s what you call it. I chose to focus on God, my girls and my ministry. Plus, I honestly had hopes of God restoring my family. Now don’t get me wrong, that bit of hope is ALWAYS alive. However, I did receive a release from God to explore all of my options and now more than ever, I realize the way to do that is to open myself up to interacting with the opposite sex again. Oh my!
Yep, it’s been literally 20+ years since I’ve gone out on date, with someone other than my girls’ father, since I was married to my college sweetheart right after college and started dating him and him alone while a FRESHMAN in College!
So this experience has been quite interesting to say the least. Especially as a saved, YET WHOLE, single sister proudly living in chaste until I’m married again; which will hopefully happen sooner than later!!! I pray! Lol
So, technically in 2011 I’ve gone out on a handful of dates but only with those who clearly have the ability according to my spiritual & natural needs and desires to potentially become my husband. I have no qualms with saying I’m a woman of faith who wants a STRONG Man of Valor to lead and love me AND I believe in covenant and the ministry of marriage and being an advocate and chief intercessor for the one who FINDS ME and truly believes, God I’m that “missing rib”
One of the most thoughtful dates I’ve gone out on happened on my Birthday or should I say in celebration of my birthday the NIGHT before. This gentleman, (with whom I’m familiar) really pulled out all the stops. As soon as I got in his vehicle, he had a nice card waiting.
When we walked into this 5-star restaurant, I could tell he’d already been there because of how the staff greeted him. Then as we approached the booth, I was pleasantly surprised to see Lilac Roses in a vase on the table. As we continued in conversation, I was a bit thrilled to see a BIRTHDAY GREETING actually printed ON THE MENUs that we were reviewing. I thought, “Wow, he had to really take some time to plan this!” (smile) It made me smile and gave him tons of POINTS in my book of creativity and thoughtfulness.
He was clearly setting STANDARDS by which others will be judged in my “world of dating” or should I say by those who want to seriously PURSUE me…(smile)
How long after your divorce did you start seriously being open to a new God-ordained relationship?
So, what’s the most creative or thoughtful gesture you’ve experienced with someone who’s pursuing you?