Let's Talk About being Single, Saved and Starting to Date Again!?!

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Okay, so it’s been a LONG, LONG, LONG time since I’ve posted to this blog. Definitely due to more reasons than one.

However, I thought this would be the perfect season in my life to start posting regularly again as I “step-out!”

I’ve been divorced now for almost 3 years and throughout this time, I really never had a desire to get in the dating scene if that’s what you call it. I chose to focus on God, my girls and my ministry. Plus, I honestly had hopes of God restoring my family.  Now don’t get me wrong, that bit of hope is ALWAYS alive. However, I did receive a release from God to explore all of my options and now more than ever, I realize the way to do that is to open myself up to interacting with the opposite sex again. Oh my!

Yep, it’s been literally 20+ years since I’ve gone out on date, with someone other than my girls’ father, since I was married to my college sweetheart right after college and started dating him and him alone while a FRESHMAN in College!

So this experience has been quite interesting to say the least. Especially as a saved, YET WHOLE, single sister proudly living in chaste until I’m married again; which will hopefully happen sooner than later!!! I pray! Lol

So, technically in  2011 I’ve gone out on a handful of dates but only with those who clearly have the ability according to my spiritual & natural needs and desires to potentially become my husband. I have no qualms with saying I’m a woman of faith who wants a STRONG Man of Valor to lead and love me AND I believe in covenant and the ministry of marriage and being an advocate and chief intercessor for the one who FINDS ME and truly believes, God I’m that “missing rib”

One of the most thoughtful dates I’ve gone out on happened on my Birthday or should I say in celebration of my birthday the NIGHT before. This gentleman, (with whom I’m familiar) really pulled out all the stops. As soon as I got in his vehicle, he had a nice card waiting.

When we walked into this 5-star restaurant, I could tell he’d already been there because of how the staff greeted him. Then as we approached the booth, I was pleasantly surprised to see Lilac Roses in a vase on the table. As we continued in conversation, I was a bit thrilled to see a BIRTHDAY GREETING actually printed ON THE MENUs that we were reviewing. I thought, “Wow, he had to really take some time to plan this!” (smile) It made me smile and gave him tons of POINTS in my book of creativity and thoughtfulness.

He was clearly setting STANDARDS by which others will be judged in my “world of dating” or should I say by those who want to seriously PURSUE me…(smile)

How long after your divorce did you start seriously being open to a new God-ordained relationship?
So, what’s the most creative or thoughtful gesture you’ve experienced with someone who’s pursuing you?

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Prophetess Dwann Holmes Rollinson, is an award winning journalist and Emmy-nominated Producer, entrepreneur and media analyst with more than 20 years of media experience.
As an Inspirational Speaker, Dwann has strengthened her commitment to be instant in season and to minister to the hearts of those who are hurting.
As a former broadcast journalist, she was accustomed to reporting the story but now she’s called to tell her personal story regarding Christians & Divorce. A story that she speaks on from her experience of how her FAITH, has led her through a recent unexpected crisis to a steady place in the midst of the storm, which is detailed in her upcoming book, “Life Interrupted : 7 Key Strategies To Overcoming Difficult Times.” Find out more at www.ProphetDwann.com

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4 comments

  1. Sanyika says:

    Wit, wisdom and welcome words of advice!

    I have a friend experiencing the same thing and I’ve found it hard to have a candid conversation about being single, saved and dating again since that’s not my journey.

    But I sincerely want to support her and give her Godly counsel without being “preachy” or having it sound like it’s coming from an “old married woman.”

    Your insights are so fresh and helpful to me as someone who wants to show compassion and understanding.

    I’m certainly passing the post on.

    Oh…and welcome back after a LONG, LONG, LONG, LONG time…keep ‘er going and don’t skip a beat!

    ~Sanyika

    • Dwann Olsen says:

      Sanyika,
      Thanks for the WELCOME back! You are right, I have found that it is INDEED a challenge for folks who haven’t walked THIS journey to comfortably contribute to another’s “healing-process” if you will, if they really don’t and can’t seek to UNDERSTAND exactly the type of inner-turmoil and outward “casting-aside” that sometimes comes, with being a Christian who finds “divorcee” attached to them.
      It’s a doozy!
      So glad you find this to be a resource you can share with your friend. Thanks for stopping by!

      Dwann

  2. Karen Swim says:

    Dwann, applauding your return to blogging and your right on target honesty about being single, saved and dating. It has been a personal encouragement to watch you truly listen to the Lord, stand steadfast in restoration and courageously move forward when God released you to explore other options. Through it all you have modeled what you preached. I know that your walk will bless so many other women, whether never married, divorced or widowed to date with Godly integrity and wisdom. Keep it going, you truly are a blessing!

    • Elder Dwann says:

      Karen,
      Thanks so much for your encouragement! It’s good to know that as I share my triumphs and even struggles, there’s value and inspiration that’s delivered to many.
      I appreciate your thoughtful words. Definitely plan to “keep this going!”

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